Nobody likes hard conversations. It’s that much harder when it’s a conversation about the fact that your penis won’t get hard. Can you relate? Some men won’t talk about it at all. Others will talk about it but only with other men - and they have to feel safe with the person even then. Today Daniel is talking with Dr. Rose, a sexual therapist at San Diego Sexual Medicine who regularly engages in conversations with couples about the issues they experience relating to erectile dysfunction. She’s got some great counsel about why you SHOULD talk about your ED, and who you should talk with. She even has some tips for getting the conversation rolling. You’ll get a lot out of this one if you’re brave enough to listen. Hard conversations only get harder when you refuse to have them. It’s understandable that you want to avoid difficult things. Especially when it has to do with something you perceive may be “wrong with you.” But you need to get your head around the subject of erectile dysfunction in a new way, with a new perspective. It’s no different than if you had another physical condition - like cancer or a bad valve in your heart. You’d talk about it right away because you’d want to get help as soon as possible. Your ED should be no different. You need help. You probably want help terribly. But you won’t get it because you’re too afraid to have a difficult conversation. Come on. Man up. You can do it! This episode will help you take the next step. The difficulties of your erectile dysfunction don’t only impact you. Naturally, sexual intercourse involves other people than just you. Sex is meant to be a relational thing, an intimate thing. That requires other people to be involved. You can’t keep the physical issues you’re struggling with to yourself. When you do, you’re not only being selfish, you’re also not allowing those you’re involved with to have the opportunity to support you in a helpful, caring way. And you’re not allowing those people the chance to deal with any of their own baggage related to the issues you’re facing together. Today’s guest is Dr. Rose Hartzell Cushanick, a sexual therapist who helps couples talk about these kinds of issues every day. She’s got great advice for how you can open the door to those hard conversations that need to happen. Please - for your sake and the sake of your partner, listen to this conversation.  You need to talk about your erectile dysfunction for the sake of your woman. When a man is afflicted with erectile dysfunction he needs to consider that it’s not just his burden, it doesn’t only impact him. The woman in his life is deeply impacted by the issue too. She has all kinds of things that go through her head. “Am I sexy enough? Am I pretty enough? What’s wrong with me?” Get the point? She’s dealing with all kinds of personal insecurities that you can help her with if you’ll man up and talk about the issue with her. Help her understand what you know - this problem is biological. It’s not an issue of desire or attractiveness, it’s that your boner is broken. This episode will give you some insight into the mind of that woman you love so that you can have the difficult conversations with her that could set her free of her own mind games. Do you care about her enough to start that ball rolling? It’s time to man up and talk about your E.D. One of the hallmark traits of men through the centuries is that they have been willing to step into the difficult situations that life throws at them and their families - for the sake of protecting and benefiting those they love. It’s hard to see it the same way, but broaching difficult subjects (like erectile dysfunction) is another of those opportunities to truly be a man. Don’t let the discomfort - or your own faulty insecurities - keep you from having hard conversations that lead to healing, hope, and help for the people you love. You can do it - and this episode with Dr. Rose (a sexual therapist) is here to help you take that first step. Outline of this great episode [0:34] Daniel’s introduction of his guest, Dr. Rose Hartzell Cushanick [3:40] How Daniel and his wife met Dr. Cushanick. [5:48] The difficulty of a penile implant for some sexual partners of the patient. [7:10] The mind of the female when her partner wants an implant. [11:45] The theory of erectivity. [17:44] How women can talk about erectile dysfunction with their man. [21:45] The difficulties men can have talking with women about sexual issues. [24:07] Final words from Dr. Rose. Resources & Links mentioned in this episode http://danielcafield.com/ San Diego Sexual Medicine DrRose(at)DanielCanfield.com Â